Sunny and I are heading out this morning for our weekly play date with our play group, affectionately entitled "The Mommy Mafia."
We're meeting a new friend today and I do hope that Sunny is kind to our new friend. I called Mother Dear two weeks ago with concerns that my Sunshine girl gets left out. It's not that she's not wonderful in every way, because as you all know, she's an amazing girl. But the other babies crawl and climb and cruise and my Sunny is not about movement. The other babies stare at a toy for about 3 seconds, and my Sunny will pick it up, study it, and work with that one toy for 30 minutes. So while the other babies have "moved on" my Sunny has not moved on with them.
I think this might be where mothers and daughters have a hard time. I of course want Sunny to be outgoing and athletic and most importantly a genius. But I have to make peace with the fact that Sunny might just be more like me than I ever imagined. She is particular, a perfectionist ( which is SOOOO not me), happy to be alone, friendly but not fake, easy going but has her lines. She is comfortable in her own skin, non competitive, and prefers 2 year olds to 9 month olds. I'm working on accepting these traits now, rather than pushing her to climb, run, jump, and move, with the other children. There is apart of me that has decided that her "Sunnyness" is really a sign of her intelligence. While the other babies love the fast monkeys my girl prefers the slow, barely moving fish…so she can stare at them, study them, imitate them. I can't lie it does feel good when Sunny waves, tells me "all done", claps, and smiles on cue. While all the children will get where there going at some point, I kind of love that she's able to do those things just a touch earlier…forgive me but when your baby was the last to crawl you take comfort in their intelligence 🙂
We'll have a full report this afternoon.